Relationship Status: "It's Complicated" ... Or is it?
Chris Grace - July 16, 2015
The good news:
- 90 percent of all people marry, and 72 percent are still married to their first spouse.
- 80 percent of married couples report being happy in marriage. Of these, 30 percent report that they are very happy, and 93 percent would do it all over again.
- The divorce rate is not 50 percent. It is closer to 30 percent, and for some groups only 25 percent. For second marriages it is only 6 percent above first marriages (35 percent).
- The rate of divorce in the church? Weekly church attendance lowers divorce rate by 25 to 50 percent. These couples also enjoy greater health and live longer.
- Premarital counseling lowers divorce rate up to 30 percent.
The bad news:
- It’s culturally acceptable to break our commitments. No longer is it widely accepted that marriage is a permanent union between a man and a woman, “till death do us part.”
- Conflict in marriage is frequently misunderstood and mismanaged.
- Fewer couples know and/or agree with God’s purpose and design for marriage.
“Healthy relationships and marriages provide a critical foundation for human and societal flourishing...”
Christopher Grace serves as the director of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships and teaches psychology at Rosemead School of Psychology. He and his wife, Alisa, speak regularly to married couples, churches, singles and college students on the topic of relationships, dating and marriage. Grace earned his M.S. and Ph.D. in experimental social psychology from Colorado State University.