How to identify hidden issues beneath your conflicts

Chris Grace, Alisa Grace - June 29, 2016

Topic: Communication, Conflict, Dating, Engagement, Marriage

It’s happening again: your spouse made plans without telling you, or forgot to put the toilet seat down, or didn’t offer to do the dishes, and you’re seeing red. But are you really angry about the dishes? When emotions get triggered during hot button conflicts, it is important to be able to identify those hidden issues and understand what is happening at a deeper level. In this video, Dr. Chris Grace and Alisa Grace discuss how to understand one another and communicate when conflict arises in your relationship.

Chris Grace

Christopher Grace serves as the director of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships and teaches psychology at Rosemead School of Psychology. He and his wife, Alisa, speak regularly to married couples, churches, singles and college students on the topic of relationships, dating and marriage. Grace earned his M.S. and Ph.D. in experimental social psychology from Colorado State University.

Alisa Grace

Alisa Grace ('92) serves as the co-director of the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships where she also co-teaches a class called "Christian Perspectives on Marriage and Relationships." While she speaks and blogs regularly on topics such as dating relationships, marriage, and love, she also loves mentoring younger women and newly married couples, speaking at retreats and providing premarital counseling. Alisa and her husband, Chris, have been married over 30 years and have three wonderful children: Drew and his wife Julia, Natalie and her husband Neil, and their youngest blessing, Caroline.