Before you give advice or make a judgment based on the first few words you hear from the other person, it is important to pause to seek understanding. Once you understand how that person arrived that their conclusion, then you will begin the right kind of relationship-building. Watch this video to hear Dr. Tim Muehlhoff address the number one problem between people who disagree with each other.
Tim Muehlhoff is a professor of communication at Biola University and author of several books, including I Beg to Differ and Marriage Forecasting. His most recent publication, Defending Your Marriage, speaks to spiritual warfare in marriage and how to equip yourself to defend your relationship. For the past 18 years, he and his wife, Noreen, have been frequent speakers at FamilyLife marriage conferences. Muehlhoff regularly writes and speaks for the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships. Follow Dr. Muehlhoff on Twitter.