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In a culture that values work over relationships and earning money over slowing down, it can be difficult to fight upstream. Longer hours, extended trips away for business, and extra projects can all come with the promise of a lucrative career, but at what cost? Today Colby and Christine Gilmore, alumni of Biola University, share their story as they found themselves right in the middle of this struggle. As you read their thoughts, do any of them connect with you?

Have you ever heard of mindfulness? The word is often associated with Eastern Meditation but in this video, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explains that mindfulness is much different from that. It can be a tool that helps you remain focused in conversation with someone, causes you to be aware of distractions around you, and makes the person you are speaking with feel cared for and listened to. Would this help you in your everyday life?

Dear CMR:

“What do I do when I have been dating my boyfriend for a long time, and he makes promises, especially about getting engaged, but never follows through?  I am getting very frustrated and resentful!”

Signed,

Tired of Waiting

In this article, guest author Hannah Ellenwood continues the conversation on what qualities to value and look for in a future dating partner. Our culture recommends a long list of traits and characteristics and in this article, Hannah continues to share points that she has learned are most valuable to find in a person. The article includes a challenge for the reader to not only examine others but also to examine themselves. What do you think of these traits?

Sometimes, the desire to be in a relationship, whether a dating relationship or a marriage relationship, can be overwhelming. What happens when that desire starts to get in the way of other things you want to do? Does that desire hold you back from things you want to pursue, like a career change or a new hobby or visiting places you have always wanted to see? Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff share their thoughts on this issue in this video. What do you think of their ideas?

Dear CMR:

Can you offer any advice to someone who is shy and lonely but who also deals with social anxiety disorder? These are people who would like a close friend or several, but for whom speaking with someone can be intimidating, and for whom social events can be overwhelming or even frightening.

Signed,

Close To A Shy Guy

If someone were to sit down and ask you what to look for in an ideal dating partner, what would you say? Attractive? Charismatic? Thoughtful? Sensitive? Adventurous? In this article, guest author and Biola alum Hannah Ellenwood ('15) writes about things that she has learned to look for, things that she may not have considered important in years past. As you read her thoughts, do they challenge the things you would consider most important in a dating partner?

Have you ever encountered someone who just does not seem to like you? For whatever reason, they do not give you respect or treat you kindly? Dr. Tim Muehlhoff offers a quick, easy tip that just might help fix the issue. Take a listen!