Growing up, most of us assumed that we will find an intimate other who would be our perfect match. In this blog, Dr. Chris Grace explores three types of compatibility that many experts agree are the most important when it comes to determining relationship health and success: personality, conflict and spiritual compatibility. Read to find out how to foster intimacy with the deepest types of core compatibilities.
It’s happening again: your spouse made plans without telling you, or forgot to put the toilet seat down, or didn’t offer to do the dishes, and you’re seeing red. But are you really angry about the dishes? When emotions get triggered during hot button conflicts, it is important to be able to identify those hidden issues and understand what is happening at a deeper level. In this video, Dr. Chris Grace and Alisa Grace discuss how to understand one another and communicate when conflict arises in your relationship.
When someone says or does something that drives you crazy, you may be dealing with a hot button issue. In this episode, we discuss insights to help you identify the deeper emotions that get triggered from hot button issues, understand why the issue is so important to you and learn how to resolve the conflict well.
What should you do when you are tired of bickering with your partner over little things? You may notice a few faults when you are dating, but once you are married, you quickly find out all the ways that your partner does things wrong. In this blog, Willa Williams (LMFT) shares three tips that will help you communicate and understand one another in the midst of these situations.
In today’s argument culture, we have lost the ability to cultivate healthy communication climates as we talk about controversial issues. The first step to having productive conversations is recognizing what a good communication climate looks like. In this video, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff shares four key aspects that must exist when speaking with someone who disagrees with you.
Before you give advice or make a judgment based on the first few words you hear from the other person, it is important to pause to seek understanding. Once you understand how that person arrived that their conclusion, then you will begin the right kind of relationship-building. Watch this video to hear Dr. Tim Muehlhoff address the number one problem between people who disagree with each other.
We live in an environment where disagreements turn ugly quickly, and our instinct is to return insult for insult - whether online or in person. However, responding in anger or becoming defensive results in unproductive and toxic conversations. In this video, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff shares a communication strategy that you can practice during disagreements to help the other person actually listen to what you are saying.
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