“Dating”

Dear CMR,

I have been dating a Christian guy for six months now. He recently told me that he has struggled with porn for 14 years. He is 28 and watches porn a few times a week. He wants me to forgive/extend grace to him while he is working on overcoming his addiction. Is it good or healthy for me to stay in a relationship with someone who is struggling with porn?

Signed, A.

We often focus on negative aspects to avoid when evaluating relationships. But what makes a good relationship? In this episode, Tim and Chris discuss a few indicators of healthy relationships.

Doesn’t it make sense to save money by living together before marriage? According to research, cohabitation actually has negative consequences on the longevity of the relationship. In this episode, we share fascinating insights on the differences between couples who are cohabitating and couples who are married.

Dear CMR,

Suppose two people are dating in which there is a mutual commitment before God for marriage in the future. Is it wrong for a man to treat her with the same love and care that he would his wife while only dating? 

Thanks, 

Timing is Everything

When we find someone who is compatible with us, we most likely find that person more attractive, develop greater intimacy and connection, and establish a solid friendship. It is clear that compatibility matters – so what are the types of compatibility that are most important to determining relational health and success? In this podcast, we explore three types of core compatibility and what they mean for our relationships.

Dear CMR,

I am single and want to start getting to know more people, if you know what I mean. How can I let people know I'm available without coming across as desperate for a date?

Signed,

Single and Ready to Mingle

In this video, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explains a concept that Dr. John Gottman calls the "happiness ratio."

Dear CMR:

Should I ever date someone that I know I’m not attracted to? I’m worried that it may set the other person up for heartbreak if I do.

Signed,

Willing, But Unsure