What should you do when your partner just doesn't get it? If this thought has ever crossed your mind, you are in good company. We all experience those feelings at some point or feel like our partner just doesn't understand us, or worse yet doesn't even care to. In this blog, Willa Williams (LMFT) shares two principles that will set you up to be better understood and better responded to by your partner.
“You start lying to yourself the minute the physical wounds go away,” a somber Rihanna told the media concerning her beating at the hands of ex-boyfriend Chris Brown. Could the same be said of the fictitious Anastasia? Why, after her physical wounds healed, did she go back? The answer lies in understanding the tragic cycle that moves from tension to explosion to remorse to honeymoon. A cycle rooted in fact, not fiction.
The thing with expectations is that we usually don’t even realize we have them until they are not met. This is particularly true of newlyweds. Once you say “I do” and start living together on a daily basis, that’s when issues begin to surface. Yet, all too often we fail to even talk about them, which usually results in conflict. And it’s certainly not limited to newlyweds.
When there’s a problem in your relationship, how do you respond? By shutting down? Yelling? Criticizing? Giving up? The way you communicate with your partner can be one of the most influential factors in how well you manage conflict. So check out our newest video, where we show you how to avoid destructive pitfalls in difficult conversations.
More and more of today’s engaged couples are seeing the benefits of saying, “I do,” to premarital counseling and education. In fact, research shows that couples that seek out premarital education enjoy a 30% lower chance of divorce than the couples who do not. But before heading out the door to your first appointment, you need to consider the importance of whom you choose to counsel you.
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