"You know you have forgiven someone when you wholeheartedly pray they would be blessed." In conflict, emotions are heightened and disagreements carry more weight. Even in the midst of deep differences, we are called to forgive people. Sometimes we are hurt by those who we are closest to. How do we own forgiveness when we need to apologize for something? How do we forgive someone when they ask for it? Walking out these steps can make forgiveness more meaningful and more restorative for your relationship.
Are you having an affair? When Dr. Tim Muehlhoff asks this question to people, often times people are taken aback. How could you assume I might be having an affair? What he suggests here is that there are different kinds of affairs that can pull you away from your spouse. They aren't as obvious as you might think! Once you watch the video, does the question reach into areas that you had not considered before?
According to recent research, 94% of Americans believe that it is important to forgive other people. Want to guess how many people actually make the effort to forgive others? What does forgiveness actually require? Do you have to ignore what the person did to you? Do you have to pretend like it didn't happen? This video covers what forgiveness means and what it does not mean.
Picture this scene: someone has hurt you and they have apologized but you still feel a lingering sense of frustration or anger towards them. What happened? They apologized, but for some reason, it didn't quite communicate that the person is sorry. In this article, Alisa Grace and Dr. Jana Anderson explain three ways to ruin an apology. Have you ever caught yourself doing these things? Have you heard someone apologize in one of these ways?
If a person in your life has opened up to an addiction to pornography, it can be devastating. When they begin to make the climb back, how do they go about rebuilding the trust of the people close to them? This is the topic of this podcast episode. Dr. Tim Muehlhoff and Dr. Chris Grace explore some ways that they can regain your trust and ways that you can learn to give them that trust.
An affair can be earth-shaking for the people involved. The relationship has been broken and there is now a new foundation of trust, honesty, and pursuit that needs to be built. In this article, Dr. Paul Friesen continues to share steps to rebuild that foundation for your marriage after experiencing an affair. Take a look at these steps to see how you can work towards restoration and forgiveness in your relationship.
With conflict (especially after an argument), what do you do if one spouse is ready to resolve things and the other is still upset and doesn't want to make amends just yet? Where can you go with a situation like this? How do you influence your partner to make amends once a conflict has been finished? Dr. Tim Muelhoff explains some of his thoughts below. Does this sound like something you could try in our relationship?
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