Is there a secret to relational happiness? What if there was a simple concept that could help protect your relationship? In this video, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explains a concept that Dr. John Gottman calls the "happiness ratio." For every one of these interactions, there should be five other interactions between you. It sounds simple, but is it? Take a look!
What in the world is emotional tennis? When was the last time your partner made an emotional bid for your attention and you responded appropriately? Was it at the end of a long day and you unloaded the stress of the day? Was it an insecurity that your spouse shared with you and gave you the chance to affirm them? In this video, Dr. Chris and Alisa Grace talk about how important these small bids for attention and affection can be to a relationship!
Are you having an affair? When Dr. Tim Muehlhoff asks this question to people, often times people are taken aback. How could you assume I might be having an affair? What he suggests here is that there are different kinds of affairs that can pull you away from your spouse. They aren't as obvious as you might think! Once you watch the video, does the question reach into areas that you had not considered before?
What do you think about this statement? "An argument always starts the night before." In this video, Dr. Chris Grace and Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explore some of the easy triggers for arguments in relationships and how to recognize them before spiraling down into an argument. They offer some very practical things to do that can allow you to continue the conversation and still maintain the peace. Try some of these out for yourself!
According to recent research, 94% of Americans believe that it is important to forgive other people. Want to guess how many people actually make the effort to forgive others? What does forgiveness actually require? Do you have to ignore what the person did to you? Do you have to pretend like it didn't happen? This video covers what forgiveness means and what it does not mean.
Imagine this scene: you are sitting at dinner with some friends and someone makes a comment about something you've done. Even though it was a true statement, it hurt your feelings. What is going on here? How do you explain this hurt feeling to the person? What they said was true. In this video, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explains that there are two levels of communication: relational communication and content communication. Does his explanation put things in a new light for you?
Do you find yourself disagreeing with your spouse on a regular basis? Maybe it’s about money or division of household chores or how to raise your children. It seems like there are a thousand things to argue about. However, according to Dr. Tim Downs, every one of our conflicts can be boiled down to one of seven basic topics, including loyalty, security, and responsibility.
Have a question about relationships?
Ask our panel of experts!
Subscribe to our newsletter
Explore additional educational content including class sessions, conferences, chapels, and articles on the Open Biola platform.