"You’ve talked about lowering our expectations for marriage, meaning don’t have unrealistic, over-the-top expectations that our relationship or our spouse can never meet. In regards then to lowering our expectations, is it appropriate to set marriage goals like 1) not fighting over money, 2) not yelling, 3) being an active listener, or 4) having more sex? Is it realistic to set a goal such as not yelling so much? What do you think?"

"Is having a friendship in marriage really important, and what role does it play?"