Before you give advice or make a judgment based on the first few words you hear from the other person, it is important to pause to seek understanding. Once you understand how that person arrived that their conclusion, then you will begin the right kind of relationship-building. Watch this video to hear Dr. Tim Muehlhoff address the number one problem between people who disagree with each other.
We live in an environment where disagreements turn ugly quickly, and our instinct is to return insult for insult - whether online or in person. However, responding in anger or becoming defensive results in unproductive and toxic conversations. In this video, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff shares a communication strategy that you can practice during disagreements to help the other person actually listen to what you are saying.
In today's polarizing society, people are often quick to take offense in disagreements. The way we communicate about our convictions has a profound impact on the quality of our conversations and relationships. Before you can practice productive ways of navigating difficult conversations, it is important to first seek to understand the argument culture.
When someone criticizes us, our instinct is to become defensive or respond in anger. In today’s polarized world, disagreements, even amongst friends, become sharp, heated and aggressive. But God calls us in 1 Peter 3 to not return evil for evil, and instead bless those who insult us. In this video, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff shares two practical ways to help you bless those who insult you.
If there’s an issue that’s bothering you – a friend hits a little too close to home with her jokes, a family member makes a judgmental comment about you, a co-worker slacks off, leaving you with most of the work – how do you confront the other person in a positive, humble manner? Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explains how to open a confrontational conversation well.
The holidays are stressful for a multitude of reasons. One significant one is that it brings together people who are not used to being around each other and may have serious disagreements and simmering emotions that are festering. Holiday gatherings provide the perfect opportunity for them to surface. If pressed into an unavoidable conversation, how should you start it?
In our closest relationships we desire to have a voice that influences each person’s life. We expect that a spouse, child, relative or co-worker will take our opinions seriously. When they are easily dismissed or ignored, conflict quickly escalates. In this blog, Dr. Tim Muehlhoff explains how a speaker's credibility affects our communication during conflict.
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