Articles by “Debra Fileta”

Do you find yourself settling for crappy relationships more often that not? Today's Ask the Expert from professional counselor and speaker Debra Fileta will encourage you to see yourself for what you are truly worth: loved, valued, and worthy.

A relationship does not blossom overnight-- but neither does distance between you and your spouse. Debra Fileta outlines 10 areas to consider when protecting your marriage.

Dear CMR,

I am single and want to start getting to know more people, if you know what I mean. How can I let people know I'm available without coming across as desperate for a date?

Signed,

Single and Ready to Mingle

"If you're not fighting in a relationship, then someone's lying. Someone's not telling the truth because you're taking a passive stance...There is a huge difference between selflessness and passivity. A lot of times in the name of selflessness, we're just like 'Well, I'm not going to bring it up. I'm not going to say what I need. I'm not going to talk through this.' That's not selflessness, that's conflict avoiding." 

Today we continue the conversation with author Debra Fileta on how intentionally couples need to continually choose marriage rather than choosing to focus on personal happiness.

First dates, love notes, romance, there are so many different approaches to how it should be done. Christians are often told to avoid the hookup culture that is so common today, but beyond that, what should they do?

Dear CMR,

I've been getting to know a guy for the last few months and I have done my best to show him I am interested in dating. Why hasn't he asked me out yet? Am I doing something wrong?

Signed,

Interested In Him

Dear CMR,

I recently started considering online dating but it feels intimidating. Can you give me any advice that will make it easier to find a person worth getting to know?

Signed, New To This

Dear CMR,

I am single.  Some of my dating friends recently told me that when I meet “the right person,” I'll just know they are right for me. I've heard that advice before, but is it true?

Signed, Looking for the One