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Dear CMR,

I am in friendships that I am worried might be manipulative. What are some ways that I can recognize manipulation within friendships or relationships?

Signed, 

Curious and Questioning

Dear CMR:

Should I ever date someone that I know I’m not attracted to? I’m worried that it may set the other person up for heartbreak if I do.

Signed,

Willing, But Unsure

Dear CMR,

This is a two-part question: My friend and I got into an interesting discussion the other day about Halloween and whether Christians should engage or not. Things got heated and we ended angry with each other and frustrated at the conversation. First, can you give some advice on how we might reconcile after the blowup? Second, can you share thoughts about Halloween and how Christians should or should not engage?

Signed, Slightly Spooked.

Dear CMR,

I hate conflict, and any confrontations make me physically stressed out. I usually try to avoid it. However, I know I need to have a talk with someone I love because our conflict is just sitting there and simmering, but I don’t know how to start. 

Signed, Conflicted and Stressed

Dear CMR,

How do you know when you’re ready to get married?

Signed, Almost There

Dear CMR, 

My spouse has a co-worker that is overly friendly and it is creating fears, doubts and insecurities in me. I feel my spouse is not seeing the possible danger, and is even off-putting to my concerns. I fear there are unhealthy boundaries and just worry about a “slip-up,” or that they are missing the beginning of an emotional affair. Any help would be great.

Signed, 

Concerned and Curious

Dear CMR,

As a married couple, we put together a budget to help us save money, but have a hard time sticking to it. How can we be more disciplined?

Signed, Sucker For Sales

Dear CMR,

As a young person, newly married what is more important? Saving, or paying off debt?

Signed,

Trying To Be Financially Wise